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    Having read through Latin Dancer's lengthy 'marriage implosion' thread on TD http://teakdoor.com/the-teakdoor-lou...-imploded.html and the usual wanker suspects lining up to give him a kick, one thing struck me.

    Of the guys I know that are or have been married to Thais, money was often an issue of contention. In LD's case, he mentioned that for 2.5 years he ferried his wife from her evening job at 9:30pm to save her using public transport, and in that time she only once offered some fuel money. He felt resentful about this after their split, presumably not because of the money, but because as well as doing the right thing by her in picking her up, he paid for her transport to a job for which it sounds like she kept all the salary to herself and expected him to pay most if not all of the domestic bills.

    Who is in the wrong, and is this a Thai thing or a woman thing?
    Last edited by Exexpat; 09-06-2018, 05:33 PM.

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    Seems like the least he could do.






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    • #3
      The good news is it looks like he's got nothing - no house no nest-egg - to divide in half when he goes through a divorce settlement. However he may have his working-life accumulated superannuation tapped into as well as any future superannuation earnings

      What LD should have done at the start of his marriage is pool both incomes into a single account so husband & wife can see the comings & goings & who is paying the bills. Then she may have got an understanding of how much he was contributing to the bills while he could see how much she was saving, & a more equitable arrangement come to for bill paying

      However you're dealing with a female, a female with "slow CPU" & "low RAM", also known as being thick. So good luck trying to talk financial sense into her Issan addled brain

      She's played the game well - saved all her money, got the citizenship, & not too old to find another horny farang. However it sounds like she's more of a simple home girl so she might be off back home to family in Thailand to open a beauty saloon in her village

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      • #4
        Yeah I didn't see him mention where she is now. He doesn't seem too bothered about that.

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        • #5
          Hello all....I am LD.
          Shaunsheep was just the first name that occurred to me when I joined here. I used to like that cartoon. I guess I should have used something similar, as Stroller has.

          My wife has not told me where she is staying. As far as I know, she is at a Thai friend's place. She's safe....why should I bother where she is ? And although she grew up in Isaan, she had enough of a brain to get a Bachelors degree to become a teacher. Even though it doesn't take much more than perseverance to do so in Thailand.

          Unfortunately she has been brainwashed by the Isaan mentality of "man pays", which I tried to wean her off, but to no avail. And I might just mention that I only mentioned having picked her up from work as one example of the many small ways in which I helped her. It's not like I expected her to pay me petrol money at the time. It's just that all those things tend to rankle in the aftermath.

          I'm still in shock, really....even after almost 4 weeks. I did genuinely love her, and a 9-year relationship is substantial. She's a sweet and youthful girl, even at 41.

          Although I got many kind comments in my thread (and repo comments), I'm pretty disgusted at the dogs who have tried to drag down the tone of the thread. And me with it. That Neverna is a real jerk. What is his function on TD, anyway ? Stroller mentioned that he is the tech guy. Would that be "Xcyte" ? Whatever, he's an idiot.

          BTW, who are you over there, Mr Tinkles ? I know who Serrolt and Exexpat are...
          Last edited by ShaunSheep; 09-07-2018, 11:29 AM.

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          • #6
            The thing is : I can't say the reason she left was exclusively one thing or another. It was not only money, because although she had AUD 20,000 in he bank, she gave me 5,000, which I had calculated was a a bit more than the rent she had refused to pay (I paid 60%) in the last 2 1/2 years. And she knew it would not look good if she left me completely broke.

            I think tha t(as she had indicated) she was very hurt by my criticizing her English in public, and then my running out of money and expecting her to support me was simply the last straw. So she purposely wound me up and then when I threatened her with the porridge bowl that provided the excuse to leave. "I don't feel safe here anymore", she said....

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            • #7
              Originally posted by ShaunSheep View Post
              My wife has not told me where she is staying. As far as I know, she is at a Thai friend's place. She's safe....why should I bother where she is ?
              Sorry but in the cases I know of like this it's because there is a new man involved. If not surely she'd head back to Thailand.

              Originally posted by ShaunSheep View Post

              Although I got many kind comments in my thread (and repo comments), I'm pretty disgusted at the dogs who have tried to drag down the tone of the thread. And me with it. That Neverna is a real jerk. What is his function on TD, anyway ?
              I see one bored angry numpty in a factory has posted on there 33 times and counting despite being on ignore. Quelle surprise. He went bonkers lashing out with his posting rate on here when I put him on ignore for five months.

              What's happened in general on the thread is predictable when starting such a personal thread on a forum with as many mentally ill members as TD has. Many are mentioned in the TD bullies thread you'll see when your postcount reaches 50.

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              • #8
                I can't say the reason she left was exclusively one thing or another.


                If your thread on TD is in any way a reflection of who you are offline, she left you because you are an atrocious individual. You have painted a shockingly awful picture of yourself there - petty, penniless, insensitive, arrogant, idiotic, bullying and completely lacking in even the faintest whiff of self-awareness. And now I see (at the age of 62 for God's sake) you're challenging a forum member to a fight. Re-read that thread and ask yourself "Who in their right mind would want to spend time with this man?" If anything, instead of wallowing in self-pity, you should be marveling at the fact that by some miracle, you managed to convince a women to stay with you for 9 years because without a radical reinvention of yourself, the chances of that happening again are microscopically small.

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                • #9
                  a forum with as many mentally ill members as TD has
                  Says Smeg, Thailandchatter's very own walking, talking DSM. Still, thanks to you, what this forum lacks in numbers, it makes up for in intensity.

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                  • #10
                    Still here whining dan?

                    I thought you asked admin to delete your account a year ago because you hate my posts but have no self control over logging in and responding to them. Now that's REAL mental illness

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                    • #11
                      a marriage based on the expectation that the wife will pay or contribute towards petrol costs for rides to and from work is not a marriage and is bound to fail.

                      is she expected to pay a greater share of the electric bill because she showers twice a day, or uses the hairdryer more than the husband? will the husband pay more if he eats steaks and the wife eats somtam. do you ask for separate bills at restaurants? how far do you take this.

                      a true marriage is a partnership, and if one doesnt have enough trust in ones partner to share a joint bank account and joint ownership of property, then it can never grow into a deep trusting relationship.

                      when one partner is having a hard time, either financially or health wise, it is up to the other partner to step in and offer support.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by TAXEXILE View Post
                        when one partner is having a hard time, either financially or health wise, it is up to the other partner to step in and offer support.
                        Or walk away, as she has. From what I've seen, Thai women especially, but women in general, are happy to take, and take a man's support for granted, but resent having to ever step up and be supportive themselves. Presumably they see their man as the provider who has replaced daddy.

                        I'd never marry a girl from a poor background, because it's stacking the odds against success. It's even more destined to doom when the guy keeps ongoing tabs on the percentage split of who provides what, to make sure things are equal.

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                        • #13
                          I don't really understand the problem with her English language. If she wasn't skilled or motivated enough to become fluent, then so be it. Go with the flow.

                          It would become tedious if the other way round and a westerner living long-term in Thailand was constantly criticized by his Thai wife for his Thai language errors.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Exexpat View Post
                            Or walk away, as she has. From what I've seen, Thai women especially, but women in general, are happy to take, and take a man's support for granted, but resent having to ever step up and be supportive themselves. Presumably they see their man as the provider who has replaced daddy.

                            I'd never marry a girl from a poor background, because it's stacking the odds against success. It's even more destined to doom when the guy keeps ongoing tabs on the percentage split of who provides what, to make sure things are equal.
                            Concur.
                            LWO Community strong!

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Exexpat View Post
                              Having read through Latin Dancer's lengthy 'marriage implosion' thread on TD http://teakdoor.com/the-teakdoor-lou...-imploded.html and the usual wanker suspects lining up to give him a kick, one thing struck me.

                              Of the guys I know that are or have been married to Thais, money was often an issue of contention.
                              I know a few friends who went through this hell.

                              1. Don't get married in Los.
                              2. If you do, don't invest money, or allow any support, or money to be spend for "support."


                              In other words, Marry Up, or don't marry at all.
                              LWO Community strong!

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